Summer time is over – the beat, mood, and life we adopt and adapt to during summer now needs to change. “How was your summer?” is hardly the number one subject at social gatherings any more. School has started, business life is gaining momentum and everyone is slowly but surely facing reality and settling into a different rhythm. A bit of a shock to the system, let’s admit. To help you reboot, here are 5 tips for a smooth transition. [Read more…]
This summer I have been starting my days with a cup of tea listening to a TED talk before walking the dog. TED talks are really great sources of inspiration. They are maximum 20 minutes which means they are short enough for you to be willing to sit down and listen, and long enough to be interesting. Of course, you can also get the Podcast version and listen on the road too!
I would like to share some of my favourites – hope you enjoy them and get inspired! [Read more…]
Our puppy Karu continues giving me fabulous insights into life. Although, still very much a puppy, he is growing fast. A couple of weeks ago, he taught me something about visions, action plans, engagement, and perseverance.
When we got Karu, back in October, I had visions of my son playing for hours with the dog, and us going for long walks on the fabulous Guincho beach close to where we live. The dog would run, have fun in the water, play with other dogs, and retrieve balls for hours on end as every Labrador Retriever loves doing. A dreamy, energetic yet peaceful picture. As the weeks passed, reality hit me: before such visions came anywhere near reality, there would be a lot of learning – about dogs, about training dogs and about training our son to train a dog. Not to mention learning how to manage all these learning processes. Clearly, I needed an action plan, otherwise this vision would turn into a nightmare. I started seeing an unruly dog ignoring my instructions, attacking children, running into the street, getting hit by cars, eating books, and chewing up sofas. No dog of mine would be like this!
Cathriona came to me through another client and friend for career coaching. We embarked on a fabulous journey together starting with a talent analysis and extending beyond the initially intended career coaching, to life coaching and crafting. Recently, we both felt a major chapter had been written so we did a completion session. Though we may still work together, in a way, it was time to move on.
With her permission, I would like to share some insights she gained from my coaching intervention.
How was coaching beneficial to you?
It was beneficial because it made me realise that, before I could advance in defining the next step in my career, I had to deal with my issues. I realised through the sessions that I sounded like ‘a stuck record’ [Read more…]
We’re well into January, so there has been enough time for setting resolutions, or perhaps you are still wondering how to fit things in. Whatever the weight we give New Year’s resolutions, a new year does invite reflection. Reflection on both the old and new year. Underlying our resolutions is often a desire for change in some form or another. What is the change you are longing for? What direction do you want to set your compass for 2017?
Before defining what you want for this year, I invite you to reflect on 2016. We are all too keen to look for what is next, but for us to grow as Be-ings, it is enriching to pause, think, and feel things through. Here are some questions to help you review the past year. Through your achievements and successes, what have you learned about yourself? How have they shaped you? What has the significance of your failures, disappointments and losses been? What has this year taught you about yourself? How did you make room for your talents and values? Who have you been in your personal sphere and as a citizen of the world?
Get off the fast train life gets you on for a moment and [Read more…]
After two years of deliberation, a month ago, we finally decided to give in to our son’s wish for a dog. A puppy, actually. I admit to being more of a cat person. Also, to saying that I would never have a dog because I am frightened of them. I was bitten as a child and have never quite got over it. Until, now. Besides slowly getting over my fear, this puppy has opened a new world to me – the puppy world! It is a bigger investment than I had expected but so are my returns, in the form of reminders of how simple and beautiful life can be. I would like to share these with you.
- Living in the NOW
It is amazing how puppies live in the now and enjoy every moment. He invites us to concentrate on what we are doing – not doing one thing and thinking of another. There are consequences to this. For him, when you play, you play. Since his play still involves biting, we feel it when we’re absent-minded! [Read more…]
Sara Blakely, Founder and CEO of Spanx, learned the secret of failure at a young age. Her father used to ask her and her brother at dinner table what they had failed at. She would get a high five when she failed and he’d say ‘Congratulations, way to go!’. It redefined failure for her – failure was not about the outcome. You only failed if you did not try. She still lives by this today. In her company she encourages her team to talk about failures and shares her own ‘oops’ as she calls them. (link to interview)
This is a brilliant way to learn to deal with failures from an early age. I learned it much later in life :). More recently, one insight came at the start of my coaching certification process from one of our leaders. She asked us: Do you know what FAIL stands for? First Attempt In Learning. So go ahead, fail, because then you learn.
End of summer is special. Whether you travel or not during summer, this time of year has a different rhythm, light and activity, a different mood altogether. The end of this special time deserves attention.
Living at an offbeat pace allows you to reconnect with others and yourself in a different energy, whether consciously or not. It is a time where you allow yourself to do more of the things you enjoy and to reflect on various aspects of your life. Yet, when summer ends, the danger of reverting back into the pre-summer mode lurks.
Let’s pause here and [Read more…]
A worldwide survey around the gender issue done by Mercer suggests that actions need to be taken at two levels to improve gender equality. At an organisational level, from hiring and promoting women to rethinking roles and definitions. And at the individual level, where passion, personal drive and perseverance come in. I loved hearing this.
Recently, I met one of my former clients, Charlotte, by chance. I hadn’t seen her in a little while so we caught up on news. She told me how her life had changed since our coaching sessions. She had come to me feeling stuck, hopeless, feeling anxious and full of fear. She was longing for joy, satisfaction and love for her career again. [Read more…]
It’s very simple. Your talents give you energy, mental energy. When you are doing something where you use your talents, you will feel invigorated, mentally alert and energized. You might feel physically tired but you will still deliver.
Can you remember an occasion when, despite a bad night’s sleep, you not only enjoyed and had fun doing but you delivered? You were definitely using some of your talents!
When you love doing something, excellence comes easily. And when you excel, success follows. Although you may achieve success, even when you don’t work with your talents, due to hard work, luck or circumstances, success comes more easily when you do use your talents.