Sara Blakely, Founder and CEO of Spanx, learned the secret of failure at a young age. Her father used to ask her and her brother at dinner table what they had failed at. She would get a high five when she failed and he’d say ‘Congratulations, way to go!’. It redefined failure for her – failure was not about the outcome. You only failed if you did not try. She still lives by this today. In her company she encourages her team to talk about failures and shares her own ‘oops’ as she calls them. (link to interview)
This is a brilliant way to learn to deal with failures from an early age. I learned it much later in life :). More recently, one insight came at the start of my coaching certification process from one of our leaders. She asked us: Do you know what FAIL stands for? First Attempt In Learning. So go ahead, fail, because then you learn.